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Questions all interracial couples get asked.

Friday, May 10th, 2019

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“How will your kids look like?”
This might be the most common question interracial couples get asked. Sometimes it stems from curiosity or just plain old ignorance. Mixed kids are sometimes the topic of debate  that can sometimes be offensive and unjustifiable to the parents.

In conservative states. this question is often asked of white ladies who are involved with a man of another race. There is a standard misconception of “race dilution”.  This means that somehow  “white” qualities are wiped out by “non-white” qualities when a couple have children. “Race dilution” is totally baseless and these types of questions are deeply embedded in ignorance and racism.

The question about children is just a mere fallacy. There is no hereditary studies regarding race superiority; that one race is better the other hereditarily. A mixed child gets half of its chromosomes from each parent, and thus will be an equivalent mix of the two parents. There is no specific way to know what the mix of characteristics will be and it could vary from child to child as well.

“You are just going through a thing, right?”
When a interracial couple is busy minding their own business having a cup of latte at star bucks, some people just think it is a phase they are going through. It is a weird presumption that maybe one of both spouses are experimenting with other races but eventually they will go back to dating their own race.

This question usually comes from close friends and family who have the expectation that you will eventually change your mind regarding the interracial relationship. People could also believe your choice to date a person of another race is some kind of rebellious act in defiance of parents or society in general.
Interracial dating is a beautiful thing, simply tell your loved ones  that you are not going through a phase nor are you rebelling. This will help them understand your choices and hopefully respect them. In case of strangers you could say nothing at all. Sometimes ignorance deserves no response.

“Your cultures must be in conflict?”
Interracial couple actually do get to experience different cultures. From food, language to social norms, love brings people together from different corners of the world.

Different cultural experience is a good thing as it helps individuals grow and learn new cultures. This helps bridge differences and people become more tolerant to ethnic diversity. You get to taste different culinary experience , mix that with dance, music , you get to step into a new world you did not know.

Although disagreements may arise in the course of the interracial relationships because of different cultures, there is so much you to gain from each other. Different cultures should complement relationships rather than cause division.

What is wrong with dating people from your own race?
Everyone should have a choice to date whomever they like. Sometimes when people leave a bad  relationship they tend to want something new. It is not unusual to look for partners from another race if that makes you feel better.

By dating a person from a different race does not mean there is something wrong with partners from your own race- it is simply a preference.  Trying to please your family and friends by always dating your own race, when you don’t want to will wear you down. It will be also be unfair to as well as your partner as you will always be looking for something else to fill the void.

What’s UK Interracial Dating Looking Like in 2018?

Monday, May 28th, 2018

Have you ever noticed the difference between looking at an attractive person and then, looking at an attractive person of a different race?  There’s no comparison, right?  It might be fun to make eye contact with a person of your own race, but when it comes to an exotic beauty flirting with you, the attraction is amazing.  It’s an almost magnetic pull that you can’t resist!

Interracial dating in the UK and surrounding areas is alive and well.  According to AYI, dating outside one’s own race is on the rise and some of the niche trends are surprising.  For instance, the most preferred ethnicity by the opposite sex are Indian men and Latina women. Furthermore, black women were nine percent more likely to date a non-black man than a black man, while white men were five percent more likely to date a non-white woman.  Black men were sixteen percent more likely to date a non-black woman than a black woman.

Of all the races, the two most likely to date within their own race were Asian and Latina women.  These figures show that interracial dating is growing overseas, particularly in the UK, and perhaps at a rate even higher than in North America.  The reason well be because of a sense of multiculturalism, which is perhaps even more celebrated in European nations.

When single people are allowed to choose whomever they want, without guilt, embarrassment or a sense of scandal coming from their society, they are more likely to follow their heart and take a calculated risk by choosing someone outside their race—outside their comfort zone.

Some have even theorised that dating people outside your own race provides genetic advantages when you have children.  This certainly explains why many people experience an attraction to certain races and can’t really explain why, except that they love their face, their smile, their body shape, accent, and so on.

What we as a progressive society should do, is encourage people of all ages to date who they want, with no explanation necessary.  There’s no need to “warn” someone you love of what could happen.  It’s only our obligation to be supportive in whatever way we can to help them create a happy marriage.

At the same time, it’s important for a couple who is dating to likewise show respect to each other and not make assumptions about race or buy into stereotypes that could be misconstrued as offensive.  Continue to be open-minded, sensitive to others, and always eager to keep peace, particularly when meeting your partner’s family.

The good news is that you have an unprecedented opportunity to date outside your race and follow your attraction.  You can use an UK interracial dating service or an app to start searching local singles who are of a different colour, race, ethnicity or culture.  You can start a chat and arrange to meet in a public place.  Who knows, maybe you’ll follow your attractions and meet someone that you really like—and all because you took a chance!

Why Black and White Dating Is Really Not A Big Thing

Friday, March 24th, 2017

You might think that black and white dating is a big thing. You may have grown up in a culture where interracial dating just wasn’t done. Though this is a very progressive thing now, there are still plenty of segments of the population that this isn’t done. There are still even people that believe it’s wrong. For the rest of us though, this is a perfectly normal thing and not at all a big thing. This is just a way of life and a different form of attraction which is totally normal.

So what is the big thing about black and white dating in the first place? It used to be that mixed races dating was a huge deal, but it’s been many years since that was the case. Most of us know that you date who you are attracted to. We recognize that you date who you are interested in. You are ultimately dating somebody who you feel that you could find love and happily ever after with. That means that you find love in whoever is a fit for you and that’s not for anybody else to decide.

It’s Not A Big Deal and Nobody Should Make It One

When it comes to black and white dating it often boils down to having an attraction to somebody who is different than you. It may be that you are interested in their culture. It may be that you just find certain aspects to them extremely attractive. It might just be that none of this matters and that you find yourself feeling something for somebody of a different race. It doesn’t matter and it’s truly not a big thing so you should never allow it to be one. The only people who make it a big thing are the people that don’t understand that love is love and it sees no color or race.

Though black and white dating may have been off limits in the past, this is no longer the case. It’s been years since this was a big thing and so we need to stop making it that way. The truth is that once you open your mind up to things you might find somebody really great in a totally different race or culture than your own. This is okay and this is a good thing and you just have to learn to embrace it for what it really is.

Your love life is for you to decide upon. This is up to you to create the love life that you are interested in and which will make you truly happy. This isn’t about or for anybody else and it’s time to let go of any inhibitions that tell you otherwise. Black white dating is just like any other type of dating. You are attracted to who you like and you love who you love and therefore it’s up to you to decide upon this for yourself. Go into this with an open mind and an open heart and see dating for what it is—a means by which you can find somebody that you love and who loves you back.

Why we Still Need to Talk about Interracial Dating

Wednesday, September 7th, 2016

In 2016, interracial dating shouldn’t be such a big deal. However, it remains to be something that society hasn’t dealt with. Although there are a range of celebrities dating interracially and it is more and more common, there are still many reasons why it remains a hot topic. And arguably, it is a hot topic for the wrong reasons.

Society is still a relatively racist and ignorant place. This is especially true for people dating someone outside their race. They have to deal with judgmental stares and occasionally ignorant comments. In today’s modern age, love shouldn’t be restricted by boundaries of any type.There are many misconceptions about interracial dating and this article is here to highlight some of those.

Love isn’t black and white

Interracial dating isn’t just about black women white men. It is about hispanics, latinos, Asians, and people who are mixed race themselves. The borders of interracial dating are far from clear. Having a broadened definition of what interracial dating makes the discussion on the topic broader itself.

It’s more than sex

Interracially dating comes with misconceptions about sex life. For instance, black girls are freaky, black guys have bigger dicks, Asian girls are submissive, and so on. These stereotypes about races in the bedroom are a big part of the problem for interracial dating. Sex is important in relationships, but not every interracial relationship is founded on it.

You aren’t solving racism

Interracial dating is far from the answer to racism. It can be misconceived that people who are dating interracially are doing so to put a stop to racism. This is rarely the case. People in interracial relationships know that they won’t stop the world’s racist society. Rather, they just realise that affection and attraction can go beyond the colour of skin or the shape of eyes.

There is room for growth

Relationships are meant to be about growth and development with someone you care about. Interracial relationships have so much scope for this in such a positive way. Learning about someone’s cultural upbringing and heritage in this manner is really special. Interracial relationships are a starting point for addressing topics of race and discrimination and facing these together. Interracial relationships know that love is blind, but it isn’t colourblind, and this is why discussing issues of race are so important in interracial couplings.

It actually isn’t a big deal

Maybe the reason we need to talk more about interracial relationships is so that we can stop talking about them altogether. Ultimately, they aren’t a big deal. Sure, questions arise like ‘what will your parents think’ or ‘how will you raise the kids in two different cultures’. But newsflash, complicated questions arise in all types of relationships. Interracial relationships are first and foremost relationships, and that means that they need to be sorted out by the two people they concern. Not the rest of society. Love should be let be in so many cases, especially in interracial dating.

The Undiluted Truth about biracial Dating

Sunday, July 10th, 2016


Almost 50 years after the laws against interracial dating was broken, a lot of people are already enjoying the freedom of being with whoever their heart calls out to. There are however truths to biracial dating that people outside don’t know. It’s also possible that you are in one and still don’t know some of the facts you are about to learn.

Interracial Dating is Most times the same as Racial Dating

Most of the times, dating someone who is not in the same race as you is the same as dating someone in your race. Forget about familiarity; you met a stranger who is from your race, and you met another stranger who is from a different race. The bottom line is that they are both strangers with various personalities. They are human beings too with similar features except for their background and orientation so don’t see a white woman with an Asian and think the woman is moving with a man from space.

Family Pressure is real

If you have a loving family who will give their consent to whatever choice you make in life, don’t go thinking other parents are like that too. Family pressure is very real especially when it comes to interracial marriages. They may not say anything during the period of dating but just mention marriage and you’ll see loving parents instantly change to strangers.

Love Doesn’t Truly Conquer All

There’s the popular saying that love conquers all but that happens to be false in some cases and interracial relationship is one. That’s why you are advised to introduce yourself fully to each other during the first weeks of your relationship. No pin should be left unturned and by that I mean, every single thing about each other’s life, family, and culture must be placed on the table so that both parties can go back and think if the relationship can actually work or not. If you make that mistake of placing love ahead of a detailed introduction, don’t go looking for a way to commit suicide when after 2 or 3 years of intense love and care, he says “we can’t marry because of racial differences”.

Racial Discrimination is now Subtle

These days, only few communities in the world are still strong racists. It’s no longer what it used to be back then when some communities kill people who are not from the same race with them. The killing and riot has subsided so if that’s your reason for not hooking up with that special person you met online, please go and have a rethink. In modern countries, you even hardly find people staring scornfully as before. These days it’s either they admire you, or they simply mind their business.

You May at Some Point Insult Each other Racially

It is normal for conflicts to arise in relationships but in the end, it is how both parties handle it that matters. Don’t go mad and threaten to call off the relationship, or file for a divorce just because he insulted you racially. Instead call him to order when he’s calm and let him know how detrimental such actions could be to your relationship or marriage. Once he sees how you handled the situation, he’ll surely avoid repeating such statements.


Now that you know some of the undiluted truths of biracial dating, you can go back and ponder over them times and times again. Not all successful buildings you see today had their foundation laid on an even ground, some where sloppy, mushy, swampy, and even waterlogged, but the buildings are still standing successfully there; so even with all the controversy surrounding interracial relationships, it is still possible for you to build a successful one.

What to Say to a Racist About Interracial Dating

Wednesday, April 13th, 2016


It’s very uncomfortable and almost shocking when a family member or friend shows prejudice against your interracial partner or the desire you have to marry someone of a different race. While many people may feel that shunning or shaming the bigot is the best way to handle this, you may want to find another way. Perhaps it would be be better to try to change the mind of this person rather than lose a good friend entirely. It can be done if you try to reason with the person about your interracial dating.

Remember Where the Misunderstanding Comes From

If the intolerant person tries to hide behind a religious viewpoint, then consider the following. The bible has never condemned interracial relationships. Some of the misunderstanding comes from early Hebrew accounts of Israelites who were told not to marry into “foreign nations.” However, this was in reference to a difference in religion and not race. Israelites were not even white, they were of the tribe of Israel and later the tribe of Judah, who became the Jews. They were told not to be seduced into serving other Gods by foreign women.

Now doesn’t it seem logical that if you are attracted to another Christian, it really doesn’t matter what race they are—only that you share the same morals, values and goals in life. Race is meaningless, considering that Christianity teaches that all men descended from one family. The bible even speaks favorably of gentiles, and other races, such as Ethiopians, Romans and Persians, who joined the congregation of early Christians.

What About King Solomon?

You may vaguely remember the example of Solomon who supposedly loved many foreign wives, and thus broke God’s commandment about only marrying Israelite women. First, the only reason it was listed a sin against God is because he was seduced into serving “false Gods” by his wives, who were not only of different races, but also different religions. Jewish law also teaches that Solomon violated the principle of staying fidelity to one wife by multiplying his wives to an obscene degree.

However, God never actually told him not to marry another race—He only warned him of being seduced by women who worshiped other Gods, and that is what broke Solomon’s long record of faithfulness in the end. He allowed his wives to change his religion.

Another misunderstood account is that of Ham, the son of Noah. His descendants, the Canaanites, were said to be cursed. However, modern scholars believed that the “curse”, or justification for war, was fulfilled in the Israelites’ relationship with the Canaanites. Besides, practically all views that support genetic purity come from racially segregated times as well as ideologies that justified African American slavery.

All of these antiquated views have been debunked by biblical scholars, historians and most evangelicals of the modern era. Martin Luther King, Jr. even called the biblical justification argument “blasphemy” against everything the bible stands for.

While interracial dating are a beautiful thing, the need to find another Christian who can support you spiritually is an important issue. This is why it’s advisable to use a Christian connecting service that yokes believers with other believers!

Why are white men worried about dating black women?

Wednesday, March 30th, 2016


Interracial dating is on a boom across Americas and Europe. One may wonder what could be the reason for this jump in the percentage be of inter racial dating and whether attraction only could be attributed to this upward swing in such dating. It is undeniable fact that whites form a major group when compared to the blacks. Attraction towards black woman by a white man is yet to become common around the globe, as still there are people who frown at such relationships. These conservative minds refuse to see beyond the caste, creed and color. The daters are independent and mature enough to have right to choose the date they like. In this era of Internet, the world has shrunk and all you have to do is log on to best interracial dating websites and you can choose your partner to date. Millions of people have logged on to such sites and have found their date.

Love strikes a person without declaring and it is capable of gripping a person. In such a situation an individual falls into love and will not be thinking about the caste, creed, tribe or color of a person. The liking of a white man of a Black woman may be physical or intellectual but after dating and falling in love, white may have some worries about his choice of partner, as he lives in a community and would like to respect the community. There could be circumstances when family of the white may not approve the choice and one may not get support from peers and friends also. While dating a person of other race or different ethnicity you must be prepared to be tolerant with the adverse comments you may get even from bye standers. Those with their new found love often worry about the unavoidable comments, sarcastic looks they receive and at times get frustrated for having fallen in love with a person of different race. In those circumstances it is better not to get intimidated by the uncharitable activities of these people, for they get pleasure in doing such unwanted things.

There are still white men who worry about the adverse criticism and end up dating white women, as they are unable to overcome the comments. But look at the world, you can find so many black women white men dating happily, and if you talk to them you will know that they have also faced such criticism sometime or the other. But they have been able to overcome their worries as they are in wonderful relationship and just ignored the bystanders and passersby and moved on with their life. You should also not mind about others or their uncharitable opinions and ignore them and move on in life with your chosen partner. It is a beautiful experience to date a person of different race or color and opens a world blessed with interracial faith that will surely enrich your life.

How Interracial Dating Sites Are Helping People Around The World To Meet Their Ideal Match!

Thursday, March 17th, 2016

Online dating sites keeps on rising from previous generation and there is no negative signs of terminating it. Statistical report shows that about 15% of marriage in America occurs due online dating websites. Though online dating made things simple to people who really can’t able to spend time on dating but some people want to stop online dating.

Individual of same mindset from various races have a rights to date people from different race with help of online dating. Interracial dating site helps people from different races to meet one another but it does not means that each and every single attempt on dating is made with a good intention or with a good value. If any plan or agenda engrossed, remaining guaranteed will never become love. Disregarding of motive, we will discuss about the dating sites and their usefulness.
So many people are steadily overcoming the barrier of dating with limitations, people consider the world to shift gently forward when it move to cultivate social rights, respect people beliefs, and creating a new atmosphere for future generation. There is no barricade for love and it must not have any barriers because love is the most pure feeling in this world.

When people newly join to a black dating or interracial dating sites, they will be feels devastated with the available options. Most rated or popular dating sites has up to date and straight forward interface to mentor everyone through choice and requirements. There are two different types of dating sites available. They are both paid and free dating sites. You just need to fill the signup form and find the matching partners. Free dating sites are not trust worthy than the paid dating site. The paid dating website is better than free because of their effort to match people and constant development in technology. So if you wish to invest money in dating site better read a full review about the dating sites and invests your money.

Research states that adult of 14% of American are generally addicted to dating websites. A survey states that adult 1 in 5 people uses online dating site from the age (25-36). Means 22% of people of age (20-35) uses online dating sites. People age from limit of (35-45) uses 17% of online dating site. But the real fact that one third people meet in online dating will never meet each other in their real life and one out of five online people who are dating will request their friend to develop their profile. US people has a highest percentage of marrying the people in online dating site.

Dating online has grown into a social pattern in current generation. People would mark that there is no shortfall of couple, who belong from various races. The interracial dating site will bring a huge amount of success and a positive experience to people that will make a change in their life. But we must be careful about dating sites because most of them are spam. So still you are in dilemma just think that you meet the person in pizza shop or going and spending time with friends, so we can just give a try to new online dating method.

Pros and Cons of Black Women White Men Dating

Wednesday, December 9th, 2015



There is certainly excitement in meeting and dating someone so very different from yourself. Learning about a new culture or traditions certainly has its place; some argue that in surrounding yourself with new and varied cultures can deepen your appreciation for your own. For some black women, dating outside of their race or culture is necessity (living in an area with few black men, for example) but for others dating outside of their race or culture is exiting, or perhaps happenstance. Sometimes we fall in love regardless of the exterior of our partner. Despite the reasons why black women seek white men, there are some pros and cons to consider prior to committing to the first date, or to something more serious. This advice is meant for both parties, and is more what to consider first than step by step instructions.

First, and foremost, the relationship should certainly be based on your own personality and not the perceived cultural expectations. All too often, when approaching someone of another race or culture, the approacher tends to attempt a sad faux exterior, one that they believe mimics the culture or race of the person being approached. Neither party wants to be stereotyped and the sum of who they are broken down to false assumptions of a stereotype put forth by media or racial misunderstandings. Instead, approach the other opening, acting as oneself, and opening show interest to get to know the other person for their unique quirks, personality, and talents.

Second, while there certainly is intrigue to date outside one’s own social or racial parameters, ask yourself if this intrigue has turned into a fetish. This is again the expectation that a person act how the stereotype of that culture, race or ethnicity is perceived. Dating outside one’s race or culture because you are drawn to another specific race or culture is not inherently wrong; but question if the motivation is to collect dating “trophies” or because you anticipate a generalized attribute. Every person is unique, and should be appreciated for what they offer.

Based on this, remember to treat the other as an individual and get to know them as an individual. Learn about his or her interests, listen to his or her cultural traditions, and be sensitive to the hindrances she or he fights each day. For example, there are certain gaps in cultural, social, and gender experiences between black women and white man. Black women struggle with the inequity of jobs, education, and social status. Transversely, it is sometimes assumed that a white man can breeze through all three with relative ease, thus not completely comprehending the daily or life struggles a black woman may face. Being open to listening to and learning from the other’s social, cultural, and even gender frustrations makes for the possibility of longer-term and deeper-rooted relationships filled with empathy and support.

Last, once connected to these differences, be understanding and open-minded. Do not make these experiences part of the stereotype. These stereotypes, both negative and positive, are perpetuated when people do not get to know others as individuals or understand that his or her experience in life is often based on how society has stereotyped him or her in the first place. Dating someone from a different background should be exiting, but not as an act of rebellion against closed minded relatives or just to “try something new.” Embrace the uniqueness of each other’s backgrounds, experiences, and personality first and foremost!

5 things I learned from dating single white women

Wednesday, December 9th, 2015

During my childhood years in Northern Kentucky, I always found myself being the only kind who was Black in my classes. When I went to high school, I was happy to see that there were some other Black students too. Due to my upbringing, I have always found myself dating white guys.

While there are some similarities just like when dating any kind of man out there, I have realized that there is a small cultural quirk which never goes unnoticed when dating a white dude. For instance, here are 5 things that black women looking for white men should know.

They don’t seem to understand the hair thing

In most cases, it will start innocently like, ‘did you get your hair cut’ after you are done washing it and it shrinks. However, this isn’t the end. From protecting your hair with the satin cap to moisturizing, your guy will always finding something interesting and new discover about your hair. It is explaining gets easier day by day, the problem is that you will always keep on explaining.

The N-word isn’t in their vocabulary

As I date black men, one of the questions that I have always found myself being asked is how I feel when rappers use the N- word in their songs. What I have come to learn is that while these white guys don’t want to say about this world, they are also not willing to talk about the reason some people do.

Fried chicken is something that will always embarrass them

There is no one who doesn’t love fried chicken in this country. The white man however is too aware of stereotypes and generalizations associated with a fried chicken and everything you are passing a KFC, they will always be torn and feel very embarrassed.
They need assistance to know what is the best thing they should tell their friends
You might be wrong to think that everyone is living in the post racial society because most of his friends are less enlightened than he is. Their friends will always insist on being told what the difference is even when there is apparently no difference. So, you should never be afraid of giving him a script and helping him out where necessary.

Meeting your family makes him scared too

You are wrong to think that black single women dating white dudes are the only ones afraid of meeting their partner’s family as white men do as well. While he may pretend to be bold, he is also scared that your family might retaliate for enduring the embarrassment when growing up. This is an area where the two of you will need to assist one another and know what is best for the two of you.
Finally, always expect to learn lots of things from your white dude too. Just as you might think that there are things he doesn’t know too much about, he also needs that you need to be updated as well on certain things.